Who Doesn’t Appreciate a Sharp Dressed Man?

ZZ Top’s award-winning hit song “Sharp Dressed Man” resonated with the public and made a great point. The lyrics declare “every girl crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man”. It’s true! The CRC can make you, and the men in your life, look sharp.

Who Looks Forward to Buying Suits?

Not many people. Suits are an investment. Suit sales are characterized by pressure. The sales people expertly exert it to close the sale. The purchaser inevitably experiences it. You don’t want to spend a significant amount of money on a suit that may not be ideal. This process can be incredibly stressful.

What if your new investment attire doesn’t fit properly? What if it isn’t very comfortable? What if the fabric is itchy or too hot? You can hardly bear the thought of spending money on an item that you may not look forward to wearing. What could be worse? Overspending on this item.  

Great news! The CRC stores have an impressive selection of wonderful men’s suits and the shirts, ties and shoes to complete the outfit. If you look closely, you will find some clothing that still has the original store tags or dry-cleaning tags affixed. There are designer suits, suits in a variety of colors and styles, and of course ties to complement the ensemble.

What about Casual Men’s Wear?

We’ve got it! This brand new navy blue velvet Halston blazer is a perfect example of the high quality clothing the CRC possesses. The price was fantastic. The jacket was unique and will create a special signature look for someone. Incidentally, velvet is one the top trends for fall.

 For men who don’t need to dress up for work, there are plenty of casual shirts and pants. These Lucky Brand shirts caught my eye due to their sophisticated pattern! Notice the dry-cleaning tags? There were many other wonderful button-down shirts from Nordstrom, Michael Kors, Calvin Klein, and many other designers. The prices make them even more attractive.

In addition to a vast selection of dress and casual clothes, the stores have you covered if you need sport apparel. Wetsuits, board shorts, baseball hats, golf shirts, and outerwear are stocked year round.

Our caring local community generously donates gently used clothing that still possesses a lot of life. Stop in and give some of these treasures the opportunity to be re-styled. Besides looking dapper, you’ll support the CRC’s critical programs that assist in the fight to solve hunger and create paths to safety, stability, and self-sufficiency.

From designer suits, to Lucky Brand casual shirts, to this gorgeous Navy blue velvet Halston blazer that was brand new with the tags on it, there are many amazing mens' items at the CRC.

From designer suits, to Lucky Brand casual shirts, to this gorgeous Navy blue velvet Halston blazer that was brand new with the tags on it, there are many amazing mens' items at the CRC.

The beautiful nautical screen in these pictures was donated to the Encinitas CRC resale store. Your author purchased it.

What Does the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society do? Oceanside Spectrum KOCT Interview

Click here to watch Elaine Swann, host of Oceanside Spectrum, and me discuss the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society's mission. We chat about the free resources they provide for patients, fundraising for research grants, and the annual Children's Holiday Party for children with blood cancer. The interview starts at the 10:30 mark. 

If you know anyone receiving chemotherapy or radiation that I can help with their cancer journey, please don't hesitate to contact me. It is unspeakably tough to feel ill while you fight cancer, let alone lose your hair and see unwelcome changes in your body. It is a blessing to help others by drawing on my melanoma experience.

Taping the August edition of Oceanside Spectrum. The show features non-profits and interesting events within the local community. 

Taping the August edition of Oceanside Spectrum. The show features non-profits and interesting events within the local community. 

 

 

September 7th Workshop: Simplify Your Life By Addressing Your Closet & Living Spaces

Do you have a closet filled with clothes yet have nothing to wear? Are your living spaces affecting your stress levels and productivity? Imagine how liberating it would feel to no longer stand in front of the closet wasting time, while experiencing frustration and anxiety, pondering what to wear. Imagine a home that uplifts you and brings you closer to your goals.

Attend our workshop to learn easy ways to get your closet under control and how to make easy changes in your home to reduce stress.

Thursday, September 7th from 6 pm to 7:30 pm

Hera Hub Sorrento Valley
4010 Sorrento Valley Blvd. # 400, San Diego, CA 92121

Click here to register! $10 until midnight 8/24/17. $15 after. A portion of the proceeds will be donated to the Encinitas Community Resource Center. Their mission is to solve hunger, end homelessness, and create paths to safety, stability, and self-sufficiency. 

I'm presenting this workshop with Kristin Stewart of Serenity Simplified. Kristin is a Home Sanctuary Coach. For the past 7 years she has worked with clients across the nation to get more organized, improve the flow of their home and coach them on personal development with their home as a template. She graduated from SFSU with a degree in Business. Her interest in Holistic Well-Being and personal development have given her a unique perspective and approach to her work with clients.

 

Is Personal Style an Art or a Science?

Do you have a well-defined personal style? If not, consider consulting a Personal Stylist.

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” -Confucius

Lyndell Werling Street Style

Personal style is both an art and a science. Style is like beauty. It is in the eye of the beholder and unique to each and every one of us. It’s like art if you will. Style is an authentic visual expression of who we are. Style evolves over time. The reality is that it is much easier to dress well when we understand our personal style. That’s where the science surfaces.

Purchasing clothing that reflects our personal style can take place once we define our visual image. That sounds great, right? But, what if you don’t have the time, interest or feel that you possess the skills to even identify your personal style? Don’t despair. A personal stylist can do the work for you.

Does Your Appearance Scream Excellence or Exhaustion?

Confucius’ statement on personal excellence is indisputable. Desire, focus and dedication are certainly paramount to attaining goals. Appearance, and your associated visual presentation, play into personal excellence too; perhaps much more than we realize.

Summer is Here. Do you Have the Right Things to Wear?

As a personal stylist, I’m often asked about the appropriate attire to wear to certain events. Fundamentally, we know that we must dress for success in job interviews, for important meetings, and to attend certain social events such as weddings, funerals, and fundraisers. So why don’t we always dress well? The answer is simple. There’s no time, interest or maybe it is lack of bandwidth after the rest of our obligations are attended to.

Appearance is more than who we are on the outside. Who we are on the inside is reflected in what we wear. Appearance correlates to how others perceive us and potentially influences the success we attain in life. Yes, many studies validate this last point.

How Much Time Can You Dedicate to Your Appearance? 

These days the complicated demands executives, entrepreneurs and busy individuals face can divert attention away from appearance. Basic wardrobe considerations such as, “What message does my clothing present, could I improve my image, and am I getting the most out of my clothing budget” aren’t addressed. Higher priorities such as spending time with family, advancing one’s career or business objectives, taking advantage of San Diego’s outstanding climate, and life in general easily exhaust the twenty-four hours in a day.

If you evaluate your image and dream about a better way to handle your clothing and image, you may want to consider a consultation with a personal stylist.

 

What Does a Personal Stylist Do Anyway?

As a stylist, I help people reawaken their personal style, curate clothing to fill a variety of unique client needs, offer special-occasion preparation and onsite styling, and I collaborate with clients to redefine their image. I founded my company to empower men and women to not only look better, but also feel better about themselves. Stylists are now accessible to everyone, not just celebrities and wealthy individuals.

My specialty is working with professional men and women. My twenty-five years of corporate experience provides me with a solid understanding of the demands placed on professionals. I vividly recall how tough it is to balance personal and career priorities while trying to present a stylish appearance.

My experience has shown me that professional people dress to impress their customers. I collaboratively work with my clients to define the visual image they want to project. Then I provide the clothing they need to make that high pressure presentation, close that lucrative business deal, and stand out from the competition. When my clients have important events, they go to their closets to select an outfit from their wardrobe that I’ve created.

I’ve supplemented my business knowledge with significant formal training in fashion styling from School of StyleFashion Institute of Design MerchandisingStyle 20/20, and Simply Stylist. While my current aspirations significantly differ from my past career focus, I comprehend the challenges associated with looking good given time and budget constraints.

Lyndell Werling Styling Shoot

 

What Does Personal Styling Entail? 

Personal styling touches various aspects of a person’s wardrobe.

Closet Cleaning

A closet cleanse declutters one’s closet and eliminates items that don’t fit properly, purges garments that are outdated or fail to support your desired image, and identifies items to purchase to complete your wardrobe.

Special Occasion Styling

In today’s digital age almost all events are photographed, featured on social media, and possibly captured in print format. How we look is remembered long after the event date. Searching for, let alone finding, the perfect outfit for life’s many celebrations can seem overwhelming. In addition to purchasing attire for photo shoots, television appearances, speaking engagements, award ceremonies, weddings, interviews and parties, on location styling is an option. Coordinating appearance prior to an event commencing, as well as wardrobe creation, fall into the personal styling domain.

Style Development Packages

Style Development packages create a signature style for clients. The process begins with a complimentary thirty minute meeting to discuss goals, current image, and create an action plan.

After the plan and image are agreed upon by the client, shopping for the new wardrobe takes place and styling looks from the new wardrobe follows. An optional follow-up meeting is available to ensure you are maximizing your new wardrobe and mastering your newly created style!

How Important is What You Wear? 

What you wear is critically important. Significant scientific research validates the fact that attire strongly affects first impressions, attitude and potentially professional success.

In 1920, psychologist Edward Thorndike validated his bias theory which is now known as the Halo Effect. The Halo Effect is a cognitive bias in which an observer’s overall impression of a person, influences the observer’s feelings and thoughts about that person’s character.

In other words, knowing positive things about someone, will result in attributing additional positive things to that person. This holds true even in the face of contradicting evidence. Appearance is a significant example of how the Halo Effect works. The role of a stylist is not only to provide people with a coordinated, functional closet full of exciting clothing but also to ensure positive visual impressions occur.

Could You Benefit from a Complimentary Consultation?

Are you like the vast majority of people who possess a closet full of attire that doesn’t create outfits, may be outdated, or doesn’t complement your body? Contact me for a complimentary 30 minute consultation to enliven your style.

In the meantime, follow me on Instagram for my “Work it Wednesday” weekly attire tips. It’s possible to have fun with your wardrobe while presenting a sophisticated professional look. I promise.

Lyndell Werling Clothe Arrow Shoot

Three Compelling Reasons to Complete a Spring Closet Cleanse

Spring cleaning yields numerous benefits beyond the obvious positive outcomes of greater organization in your home and the opportunity to donate unwanted possessions to those in need. Here are a few incentives to clean out your closet and tips on how to approach it.

Clutter Induces Stress

Per Sonya Britt, professor at Kansas State University, clutter induces stress. Individuals under stress are less able to make rational long-term decisions. Mary Gresham, a psychologist with Atlanta Financial Psychology, states that studies prove that families who live in cluttered environments have higher stress levels. Decluttering is not often a high priority but attempting to do it under pressure can make it a very unpleasant task. Add a closet cleanse to your To-Do list now and reap the benefits of creating a sense of calm while purging your closet of unnecessary items.

Your Closet Can’t Endure Another Shopping Trip

Have you ever wanted to go shopping but realized that you can’t fit another t-shirt, let alone multiple garments, in your closet? Streamlining and organizing your closet’s interior simplifies the process of creating outfits. Reacquaint yourself with favorite, but perhaps hidden, garments as a result. Without clutter, you can easily view items and maximize the pieces that you already own. Say farewell to clothing that doesn’t fit well and stop by the CRC resale stores to see if you can fill the empty space with new items. I do this regularly and found all of these great pieces at the CRC, including the book on the history of shoes. It is fun, rewarding and stretches my clothing budget beyond my limits.

Lyndell Werling Personal Stylist Closet Cleanse

2018 Tax Deduction

Is it ever too early to start creating tax deductions for the upcoming tax year? Clean out your closet, make a donation to the CRC Resale stores, and obtain tax deductions for next year. You’ll be glad that you did.

Closet Cleaning Tips

Not sure where to begin your closet transformation? Here are a few tips.

1) Never complete a closet cleanse alone. Ask a friend or family member to help you decide which garments to eliminate from your wardrobe. For example, an honest assessment of whether jeans really fit is easier to make with a person who will provide a second opinion.

2) If you can’t see it, you won’t wear it. The CRC stores are full of incredible items to help organize your closet as well as the rest of your home. If you simply must keep items that are tough to fit into your storage spaces, let CRC help you get them organized.

3) Set goals. Determine what pieces in your closet support your lifestyle. Ask yourself if each item supports these goals. If you no longer work in an office environment, do you need all of those suits? If you used to participate in a sport or hobby that required certain apparel but you no longer take part in that activity, why not donate the equipment to the CRC and make it possible for those garments to have a second life?  

4) Create a shopping list during your closet cleanse. If there’s a gap in your wardrobe, take note of it and take advantage of newly created open space in your closet to fill it. Perhaps that item can be found at one of the CRC Resale stores.

Spring cleaning can lead to greater harmony in your home, better closet organization, less time getting dressed as well as provide much needed items to the CRC Resale stores to fund their critical programs. We encourage you to carve out time to achieve these outcomes and thank you in advance for your support of the CRC!

Book a Closet Cleanse by April 30th for only $199. Regularly $249.

We'll eliminate items that don’t fit properly, purge garments that are outdated or fail to support your desired image, and identify items to purchase to complete your wardrobe. 

Lyndell Werling Personal Stylist Jeans

Why Clothing Choices Have Critical Consequences, Especially for Women

How important is what you wear? Critically important. Significant scientific research validates the fact that attire strongly affects first impressions, attitude and potentially professional success.

While scanning the internet for research to confirm or refute the relevance of attire, I stumbled upon numerous data points and varied academic studies. I found the data on this topic entirely fascinating. I hope you will too.

Clothing Plays a Significant Role in First Impressions

It shouldn’t be news to anyone that first impressions matter. It shouldn’t be hugely surprising that clothing is critically important to first impressions either.  

How significant is appearance in the formation of a first impression? Body language and appearance, of which clothing is a significant component, are the two foundational elements of visual image. Together, the elements of body language and appearance, account for fifty-five percent of a first impression.1-3

How can this be? Clothing sends strong visual cues. Just as nonverbal communication resonates loudly, so do the unspoken words implicit in our attire. Since you never have a second chance to make a first impression, choose clothing wisely. It plays a crucial role in the opinions people form of you. Make choices that represent your personal brand, support your professional goals, and reflect your character.

How can you go about it? Think of three to five words that represent your professional image, your visual brand and your aspirations. Before leaving your home each day, honestly ask yourself if your attire supports your vision. If it doesn’t, find clothing that does.

Scientific Studies Verify Appearance Influences Perception

The relationship between appearance and perception is inextricably linked. Within seconds of meeting a person, assumptions based on physical traits and behaviors are made.4

Time and time again, research confirms that appearance strongly influences perceptions. Psychology Today affirms that clothing signals socially important things about an individual, regardless of whether opinions formed by appearance are unfounded.5 Opinions about trustworthiness, intelligence, competence, self-esteem, power, beliefs, affability, authority, financial success, suitability for hiring, and the merits of promotion are formed based on clothing.6

Whether or not the people making judgments realize it, they’re subconsciously judging. Shockingly, even when individuals don’t think appearance is important, they still make judgments based on appearance.7 In short, everyone makes judgements, everyone judges appearance, appearance is important even to folks who don’t think appearance influences their opinions. And, these perceptions are made quickly. Astounding, isn’t it?

The Halo Effect – One Positive Trait Leads to Additional Positive Judgments

In 1920, psychologist Edward Thorndike validated his bias theory which is now known as the Halo Effect. Per Wikipedia, the “Halo Effect is a cognitive bias in which an observer's overall impression of a person, company, brand, or product influences the observer's feelings and thoughts about that entity's character or properties.”

In other words, knowing positive things about someone, will result in attributing additional positive things to that person. This holds true even in the face of contradicting evidence.

Later research on the halo effect verifies that this bias is highly influenced by first impressions.8

Research confirms that first impressions are overwhelmingly made on appearance. The halo effect proves that these impressions last despite evidence that disputes these impressions. It logically follows that first impressions stand the test of time regardless of efforts and evidence to change these impressions. 

The consequences of dressing poorly, or inappropriately, present themselves long after the impressions are formed. Why not instill confidence in your abilities through portraying your best visual image?   

A Woman’s Appearance is Judged More Harshly than a Man’s Appearance

The consequences of dressing poorly are more severe for a woman than a man.

There are double standards in many of life’s circumstances. Clothing for professional women happens to be one of them. While dressing professionally affects the success of both genders, a study completed by Women Work! concludes that appearance affects how women are perceived by others to a greater extent than their male counterparts.

Approximately eighty percent of respondents in the Women Work survey indicated that clothes, and other physical traits such as hairstyle and makeup, play a significant role in assessing whether a female has the qualifications and knowledge to perform her job. Insignificant aspects of a woman’s attire may contribute to negative conclusions about a woman’s competence. Further, this is especially true if a woman holds a higher status corporate position.9  

Highly subjective assessments about a woman’s appearance can sabotage females in the workplace and elsewhere. Not only do women need to contend with a myriad of workplace challenges men are immune to, women must also be highly attuned to their visual presentation. Studies confirm that men rate other people less positively than women based on clothing. 10 Ultimately, women are less judgmental, than their male counterparts, when forming assessments of individuals based on appearance.  

If your boss, superiors, or peers are predominantly male, take note. You are being judged, often very critically and potentially to your detriment, based on your clothing choices. Don’t jeopardize your success, professional advancement, or be naïve about the importance of your appearance.

Stay tuned for my next blog post on steps to dress for professional success. In the meantime, view my “Work it Wednesday” Instagram posts with visual ideas of how to nail the workplace look.

Lyndell Werling Personal Stylist

Footnotes

1) http://www.businessknowhow.com/growth/dress-impression.htm

2) H. Andrew Michener, John D. Delamater, and Daniel J. Myers Social Psychology

3) Dr. Albert Mehrabian, UCLA

4) http://www.businessinsider.com/how-your-clothing-impacts-your-success-2014-8

5) https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/do-something-different/201304/what-your-clothes-might-be-saying-about-you

6) http://www.businessinsider.com/how-your-clothing-impacts-your-success-2014-8

7) Caroline Dunn and Lucette Charette, National Research Council of Canada

8) http://www.economist.com/node/14299211

9) https://www.scribd.com/document/2029344/How-to-Make-a-Great-First-Impression

10) Reid, A., Lancuba, V., & Morrow, B. (1997). Clothing style & formation of first impressions. Perceptual and Motor Skills, 84(1), pp. 237-238.